It takes a village. . .How many times have we heard that expression? Growing up I remember running around with my “village” but I don’t recall my parents relying on the “village” as far as I rely on mine.
I’m lucky to live in a locality with neighbors that socialize, children play in the front yards and where most children go to the local, public school. My family moved to our present house 9 years ago when my daughter was 1 and what we didn’t realize is that we had a “village” to live life with kids. Our village began to grow without us realizing it.
As we all know, as you get older, friends become more difficult to make. Friends start being made by circumstances. For example, you live on the same street, you fall off at daycare the exact same time each day or you work in adjoining cubes. From the time our eldest daughter finished Kindergarten, we had a net of friends whom I could call when I needed to. I was a working mom and sometimes I felt like I was constantly asking people for favors. What I learned from people who had older kids and were not new to the village was that “it all evens out.” I am a firm believer that it does and now that I have a 7 and 10 year old and not working full time, I tend to be someone that my village stinks on. It all evens out.
Parents have to remember they can not do everything. You will need to surround yourself with those who help you. This is hard for many of us but you can’t be the soccer coach, class parent, Boy Scout leader, softball team parent, and social planner. Depending on what is happening in your life, you may rely on your village otherwise throughout the year.
Recently I had one of those days – we all have them and we are not proud. I alternated between wanting to shout and shout. I didn’t understand what I wanted but what I got was a hug, a college pick-up, a grocery run and a Pinkberry, all from different people in my village. The actions themselves might not look like much but it was what I wanted – support. Support is what I rely in my village for, some days more than others. I may not need my village now but who knows what tomorrow holds.
How can you rely on your own village?